I know I had said in a previous post about setting goals/resolutions and how they sometimes aren’t achieved or they get forgotten about.
My plans are very simple for 2018 and look a little like this (I hope).
1) To Save each month.
2) To limit myself to only 12 purchases (not including daily essentials).
3) To only read one book at a time.
4) Don’t buy any new books during 2018, read what I have first.
5) To only buy something if it needs replacing.
6) To sleep on all purchases.
7) To keep on top of my inbox and digital photos. Delete what’s no longer needed immediately.
8) To find pleasure in the simplest of things. For example that first look through a magazine with a cuppa.
9) To put an end to mindless/impulsive shopping.
10) To spend less time online, more time reading and live in the moment.
To remember how lucky I am!!
These past few months I’ve been taking regular breaks from blogging and social media as I’ve found it rather overwhelming. I’m still trying to find a happy medium of what/when/how often to post things. Sometimes I feel I’ve nothing to inspire others. This past month I’ve been going through a change of direction with my lifestyle.
I no longer want the clutter that surrounds me at home and thanks to books about the Swedish/Danish lifestyle I feel like I may be turning a corner. First step has been decluttering my own space as I still live at home I do own quite a lot of things and craft items. In the kitchen, I have a cupboard solely for my mugs (this is changing immediately as I’m typing this). I just want to keep a maximum of 3 mugs of varying sizes – pointless keeping 3 mugs the same, 1 teapot and 1 mini tea set (trio and milk jug) for special occasions and special weekends. Alongside this I plan on adding one small plate, small bowl for a healthy portion of cereal and 1 egg cup. These will be purchased carefully so I get it right first time around.
I find most British people (not all) very focused on materialism and consumerism. We are always after the next best thing. We often think well I’ve got the money why shouldn’t I buy it mentality. The reality is in a few weeks time we’ve seen something else and we no longer want what we’ve got. And so this circle continues. I want to turn my back on this for good, I was never that bad to be honest. But I recognise I have had a problem with buying in the past. It’s the same with food, we feel guilty of leaving food behind and wasting it. Why not prepare less. Why not put those extra biscuits back instead of eating them? This is something my current read focuses on ‘Lagom’ not too little, not too much. Just right!
I’ve also been thinking a lot of my dream of living in a white croft. I’ve since decided that I don’t want to be as rural. I’d rather live in a small village or town, in either a single story cottage or a small house. Living in the suburbs it’s all crazy busy with lots of built up areas and not much greenery. I dream of a slower paced ideal really with lots of walking, a trip to the village store to catch up on the weeks gossip and no keeping up with the Joneses. A modest home filled with lots of love, happiness and laughter.
Talking of keeping up with The Joneses, I think this happens when we compare ourselves to others on social media just as much as in the real world. Instagram can appear all perfect, but what you don’t see on people’s Instagram feeds is the pile of washing that needs sorting or ironing. The stack of magazines that need reading or the sink that’s full of dishes. No ones life is perfect. Only we can determine our true happiness.
So going forward I would like a carefully considered pottery cupboard, a small wardrobe of things I know I’ll wear out before buying new. To not get bored easily or be swayed by others. To stop buying so many home magazines only to feel let down when I realise my home is nothing like this. To say goodbye to our consumerist society. To live a carefully curated lifestyle of less really is more. To turn technology off after 8pm and no social media on a Sunday.
Another thing I’m implementing going forward is to bring light into my life daily with the lighting of a candle. I think as a nation we could learn a lot from the Danes and Swedes. Slow really is more!
Why do birthdays always make you question life and our life choices? Last week I celebrated a birthday ending with a zero. I was thinking about what I had achieved since my last milestone. In the grand scheme of things not much had changed, but in other ways they have.
I am now focusing my time on those people who I love dearly – close family and friends. These are some of the other things I’m hoping to achieve in the next ten years;
- To focus on making our house a home
- To spend money on experiences rather than impulse buys
- To support independent businesses
- To continue purchasing vintage items
- To only buy a maximum of 2 magazines a month
- To read everyday
I think the worst thing I’ve been doing these past few years, is thinking too much of what others think of me, my circumstances etc. I’m hoping to retrain myself to be less of a worrier. I’m hoping to care less about not keeping up with the Jones’!
As we welcome in ‘The New Year’ in just a matter of hours, many of us compile resolutions. Sometimes we stick to those, other times we fail miserably.
In 2017 I’ll be having a big birthday and would like to enjoy experiences instead of things. This year instead of making resolutions, I’m setting myself goals instead. 2017 will be a year of enjoying the simple pleasures in life that don’t have to break the bank. The things I’d like to do in 2017 are;
1) Read one book a month – So many times I set myself a higher target and feel deflated if I only reach half of that. By spending a month per book I will be able to savour it and make notes and post reviews on the blog.
2) Family days out – whether it’s a trip to the Scottish Borders, Yorkshire or the Northumberland coast. There’s nothing I like more than packing the car in the morning with a picnic and setting off for the day. Enjoying the scenery of somewhere other than home is one of the things I love most, especially when it’s enjoyed with loved ones.
3) Taking time to brew a cuppa using a teapot – It’s convenient to boil the kettle and make a cuppa, but taking 30 minutes to an hour to enjoy a pot of tea with a couple of chapters of a book is a good way to spend an afternoon.
4) Moving my blitz cleaning/tidying day to a Thursday afternoon means the house will feel welcoming and homely for the weekend.
5) Clean sheets, pj’s and long soak in the bath – I adore the smell and feel of clean bedding once a week but my baths are normally taken on different days (as I prefer to shower daily). A long soak in the bath with lovely smellies followed by fresh bedlinen will be a blissful indulgent treat.
6) Only buy when I need it – An obvious one but if I don’t need it or it’s not on offer, don’t buy it. Being more mindful with money is something I’ve been doing during November/December 2016. I’m also carrying cash around more often.
Do you have any plans or goals for 2017?